Letting Go of Expectations

What is it that I expect from myself and others? I see myself projecting my past experiences on others and expecting a similar outcome. Sometimes I’m afraid of being rejected, so I project those feelings onto the people closest to me and I harbor those feelings and expect the worst. When in fact that person just simply is loving me for who I am and has no intention of rejecting me. I judge myself as being unworthy of being loved and then expect that others will not love me.

This is all just a deeper level of letting go of control. I am trying to hold on to the past and project my past into my future. Expectations and projections go hand in hand. I use my projections of past events to fulfill my expectations. And sometimes I may expect good things, like that the person I am with will be in a good mood. And then they are not and I may react to the not so good mood by putting myself in a similar mood.

I used to think that I should have certain expectations and that was just how life was suppose to be. In reality, I have just trained myself to have expectations and to project my past experiences onto those around me. This is not normal or natural, it is just a learned way of being. When I was a child, I had no expectations until I was taught to have them. I really can’t remember not having expectations, however, I see very young children that do not.

What can I do to let go of my expectations? Live in the moment and for the moment. Whenever I catch myself projecting my issues and my past experiences onto someone or something else, I can stop and take responsibility for my life. And realize that no one else in the world can make me feel or think anything. My feelings and thoughts are my responsibility. And I am not my feelings and thoughts. That’s a topic for another blog…